Gender affirming sex is exactly what it sounds like - sex that affirms rather than contradicts a person’s gender. This is really important for trans folks because sex can trigger a lot of dysphoria, either through stereotypical gender roles during sex, or bottom/top dysphoria. The things I present on this page I know because I am non-binary and have been in exclusively T4T relationships. I don’t advertise this typically in my professional life, but I am being candid here because it’s important context given that some of these tips are based on my personal experience with gender euphoria and dysphoria.

Communication is incredibly important for any sex, but even more so when one of the people involved is transgender. Before sex with a new partner, discussing triggers and boundaries is a very good idea. With a trans partner, you should also have a conversation about the language you use and how you should treat their genitals. For some people, it is very affirming to talk about their genitals using language that matches what they want to have. Alternatively, you can use neutral or ambiguous language such as “Do you like it when I suck you?” or “Mmm yes I want to taste you”.

I’m showing this on his T-cock to make it easier to see, but you can use this technique even if they aren’t on T. Positioning is also very helpful - asking to suck their dick and getting on your knees in front of them can be incredibly powerful.

Be sure to ask them to show you what they do on themselves first. Most trans-femmes I know have unique ways of touching themselves. Here I’ll show you a couple, and the magic of vibrations when someone’s estrogen levels are increased.

If you or your partner aren’t comfortable being naked during sex, don’t worry! That’s really common for trans folks, and it doesn’t have to stop you from having wonderful, satisfying sex.

Kink can also provide great ungendered options. Sub space and little space are especially great, since in those headspaces the sub or little is not as focused on their body/gender, if at all.